What happens when preparation meets opportunity? You step into your life purpose. Some people call it luck, I call it purpose. But there are some things you have to do to prepare yourself for purpose.
One very important thing to keep in mind is that a negative mindset will hold us back from success every.single.time.
As moms and women in business have to be wiling to roll up our sleeves and prepare ourselves for the success ahead.
Getting rid of a negative mindset requires work.
You have to work to prepare yourself.
Nothing you receive in this world simply just happens. Remember Newton’s law? “For every reaction there is an equal and opposite reaction.” Whatever you do impacts something else in your life.
I have been in business off and on for about 14 years so far. During this decade-long season of mothering and balancing business, I’ve come to realize my limitations and what I can and can’t do at different seasons of my life. I’ve learned how far I can stretch the boundaries in order to pursue business and how much of my energy has to kept for home life and raising kids.
Meanwhile, I’ve learned the value of work. One of those values is that I can’t expect a return on no investment. In other words, no time in, nothing out. No matter how slow-going things seem to be, if I just chop at it a bit at a time, a week here, a month there and a year goes by, I have accomplished something rather than nothing. And that is an accomplishment, no matter how small. This is how I encourage myself daily.
Consistent work is crucial. The only way we can stay motivated is to encourage ourselves.
This leads me to the point that whatever someone else does to you or around you impacts you. That is why it’s so important to keep a few things in mind as women in business.
Guard your environment.
It goes without saying that negative people and circumstances can adversely affect your success. Are you finding yourself constantly dealing with a Debbie Downer who consistently gives you the negative scoop regarding your decisions? Are you around people who are at odds with you, who don’t understand your vision, and who don’t support you?
It’s important for women to guard our environment against a negative mindset and guard our environment.
Hang around thought leaders, positive people who have been successful. Seek out mentors and those who can help you along the journey. There are those who will pull you down and those who will build you up. Spend time with those who will be the best influence on you.
This leads to my next point…
Take control of toxic thinking.
Like many women, over the years I’ve battled with bouts of low self-esteem. I’ve heard many times that those of us who put ourselves out there in the public eye can be some of the shyest people.
I don’t think I’m all that shy but I definitely have my more introverted moments. There are also moments when toxic thoughts begin to dominate my way of life as I succumb to ideas that don’t uplift me.
It’s very easy for me to slip into this mode of negative self talk and doubt and I like to say that it can be due to my background of having grown up in a small Southern town where being demure, polite and humble were esteemed above mannerisms that can be mistaken for arrogance. Sadly, I’ve seen many women have their self-esteem completely shot down or their self-worth plummet as a result of this type of limited thinking and debilitating mindset. It’s not so much the geographic area you were raised in or currently live in, but the mindset of the people you hang around with that is the bigger influence.
We must, as women in business, completely take control of toxic thinking, getting rid of it every time it creeps its ugly head in our lives. This is the only way we’re going to see the value in ourselves that truly exists. When you feel like you can’t be successful, like you can’t make it, you can’t do it, you don’t have what it takes, shoot down the toxic thinking right away as you begin to recognize it.
Well, my friends, I hope this has been helpful to you and encourages you to dump any negative mindset regarding business. You can do whatever you roll up your sleeves and set out to do. Your life is full of purpose and meaning. You can do this!