Mom guilt is real, and if you are a mom blogger you totally get it. I talk about this topic so often with mompreneurs because it’s completely relevant and something that I know a LOT of us are dealing with constantly.
How do we find work-life balance? How do we spend time with our families and get it all done?
I try to cover just a portion of this massive subject in my Facebook live video- and I hope you find it helpful.
Make family your priority.
I think our greatest priority is to spend time with family, and we moms know this. We understand already that being grounded in faith and spirituality is important, and we so desperately want to. make family priority. But how do we do this and build our blogs? Blogging full time is truly a full time job!
In my life, I try to make family and spending quality time with my kids number 1. This is my high priority although I’m not always great at it.
In a perfect world my life would go like this: after taking care of my spiritual wellness, my physical health, loving my husband and my kids, business comes next in the line of priorities.
But sometimes (just sometimes), blogging sucks up so much of my time that I forget all sense of time. I mean, I literally enjoy blogging this much!
I’ve found that it’s important as a homeschool mom to use block scheduling so that after I homeschool my girls I spend time working, then time is spent preparing meals and doing housework and chores. I also have to unwind and just spend time enjoying my family- playing games and enjoying life together over family dinner.
It’s so important to make sure you have your own system of priorities that defines who you are so that you can balance your life better. I know it’s not an easy feat (I’m right there with you in the throes of family life), but it is possible.
Don’t feel guilty for being busy.
Entrepreneurship, as I’ve learned, is full of twists and turns. It’s not a straight shot to your next destination so it can be a rather tricky journey. There will be seasons when you’ll be extra busy with client work and you’ll need to stay later for meetings or leave your kids with a sitter a bit more often.
As your work load increases and your business expands you may find the need to call in extra support for your children, but that’s okay. It’s all part of your journey. So long as the new obligations you have don’t impede on your joyful journey or make you feel out of balance or completely out of sync with your family, it’s just a hiccup and you’ll get through it fine. In order to build a business you may just have to make some sacrifices. Prep your family for what to expect during the busy seasons.
Of course, if you feel that you are getting totally out of balance, then you’ll need to re-think your schedule and responsibilities and perhaps take some things off your plate. I’m always re-evaluating my life to see what needs to be eliminated if I feel like I’m out of balance.
Spend time with your family as much as possible.
When you’re together with your kids, really make it count. Let them know you’re available for them to talk and connect, or do activities they enjoy most.
If you spend quality time with your kids daily, likely a good 98% of your guilt will dissipate because of your connection with them. Whether it looks like 30 minutes or 2 hours, any amount of time with them is better than none at all.
I snag whatever moments I can, after school, before meals, just whenever – to do fun things with my kids that don’t take much time. We like to play card games or just simple word games. I read them stories, pray with them, and tuck them in at night even though they’re getting too old! I try to milk as much time out of being their mom in and around the clock although I’m working tons to build my business.
Give extra affection.
Another idea is to have reward systems in place so that the kids have something to look forward ton (for example, a mall outing with a teen daughter or a trip to Chuck E Cheese with younger kids). You can take them for ice cream or go for a special treat that they would really like.
This extra affection gives your kids the confidence that although you’re working hard all week and need some space and time to work uninterrupted, you understand their sacrifice of giving up some time with you. You’re letting them know they are important because you’re willing to reward them with some extra special fun at the end of the week as a result.
I truly believe that you can have your work life and home life combined and live without the burden of guilt.
It’s a new year and it’s time for new goals! I’m so excited about what this year has in store. How about you?
So this post was actually my very first one to this blog, and it’s also my first podcast episode. When I first wrote this in 2014 I was super jazzed to finally see my vision realized through this blog. It has been an incredible journey, although not without its hiccups. However, I want to enter the new year with goals I can actually keep and follow through with.
I decided to come back five years later and spruce things up a bit on this post and give a fresh outlook on what it means to keep blogging goals. I’ve learned a lot over the years…a lot of what not to do, and I found out what things are actually working. I’ve learned that it’s easy to give up and not so easy to remain consistent. I’ve learned that creating goals doesn’t mean I will keep them. And I’ve learned that having too much on my plate means I can’t be successful at the one thing.
So, let’s make this a year to remember together. Here are some ways to create blogging goals you can actually keep this year. (And also, here’s a video to go along with the post.)
Refresh your goals list.
Time to cross off old goals and bring in the new. What are your blogging goals this year?
I personally made a decision to turn this blog around to not just focus on helping mompreneurs to balance entrepreneurship. Being a mompreneur is difficult at times, yes. But there is so much that is exciting about this journey- namely, blogging. I decided to focus my blog on teaching blogging strategies and tips this year. So, this means new goals for me.
What are your goals this year? Are there any old goals you need to cross off your list?
Pick up your free goal planning worksheet for 2019!
Make your goals visible.
What does your wall space look like? This year I’ll be setting up inspirational quotes on my wall to keep me motivated.
You can do a number of things to make your goals visible to you. Use post it notes. Try using the Evernote app. Google drive and calendar are also great ways to put your goals in front of you visually.
One of my favorite tools today is Trello. This app keeps me in tune with my daily, weekly, and monthly goals.
Share your goals and gain accountability.
A few years ago I used a voice recorder almost daily. There was just something about speaking my goals into a voice recorder and playing it back to myself that made my goals a reality.
This year I’ll be mostly making good use of Trello and my blog updates to you guys for accountability and motivation. I’ll also be sharing my goals with my husband who is my business and life partner. I trust him to give me the truth, not sugarcoated, and he is just the motivation I need to push me forward with my goals.
Find a friend or an accountability partner and share your blogging goals with them. This can help tremendously in making your goals a reality.
Assess your progress.
Have a meeting with yourself and check your results. After about 30 days of blogging, check in to see if you’ve been meeting your goals.
Have you written the number of blog posts you wanted to write?
Have you shared your posts in social media?
Have you created a funnel system to gain new subscribers and customers?
Check in again a month later. Do this every month. Give yourself a 3-month check up and then a 6-month tuneup if you need it. The key is to check in with your progress periodically and constantly.
How else will you know if you’re meeting your goals unless you keep tabs on your progress?
Are you meeting your goals?
Let’s make 2019 a year of moving forward into taking those small action steps which lead to greater rewards.
I’d love to hear from you. Tell me what you think. What topics would you like to hear about in future podcasts and posts? I have some great show ideas lined up for you, but I would still love to hear your thoughts.
What happens when preparation meets opportunity? You step into your life purpose. Some people call it luck, I call it purpose. But there are some things you have to do to prepare yourself for purpose.
**UPDATED WITH PODCAST**
One very important thing to keep in mind is that a negative mindset will hold us back from success every.single.time.
As moms and women in business we have to be wiling to roll up our sleeves and prepare ourselves for the success ahead.
Getting rid of a negative mindset requires work.
You have to work to prepare yourself.
Nothing you receive in this world simply just happens. Remember Newton’s law? “For every reaction there is an equal and opposite reaction.” Whatever you do impacts something else in your life.
I have been in business off and on for about 14 years so far. During this decade-long season of mothering and balancing business, I’ve come to realize my limitations and what I can and can’t do at different seasons of my life.
Meanwhile, I’ve learned the value of work. One of those values is that I can’t expect a return on no investment.
In other words, no time in, nothing out. No matter how slow-going things seem to be, if I just chop at it a bit at a time, a week here, a month there and a year goes by, I have accomplished something rather than nothing.
And that is an accomplishment, no matter how small. This is how I encourage myself daily.
Consistent work is crucial. The only way we can stay motivated is to encourage ourselves.
This leads me to the point that whatever someone else does to you or around you impacts you. That is why it’s so important to keep a few things in mind as women in business.
Guard your environment.
It goes without saying that negative people and circumstances can adversely affect your success.
Are you finding yourself constantly dealing with a Debbie Downer who consistently gives you the negative scoop regarding your decisions?
Are you around people who are at odds with you, who don’t understand your vision, and who don’t support you?
It’s important for women to guard our environment against a negative mindset.
Seek out mentors and those who can help you along the journey. There are those who will pull you down and those who will build you up.
Spend time with those who will be the best influence on you.
This leads to my next point…
Take control of toxic thinking.
Like many women, over the years I’ve battled with bouts of low self-esteem. I’ve heard many times that those of us who put ourselves out there in the public eye can be some of the shyest people.
I don’t think I’m all that shy but I definitely have my more introverted moments. There are also moments when toxic thoughts begin to dominate my way of life as I succumb to ideas that don’t uplift me.
Sadly, I’ve seen many women have their self-esteem completely shot down or their self-worth plummet as a result of this type of limited thinking and debilitating mindset.
It’s not so much the geographic area you were raised in or currently live in, but the mindset of the people you hang around with that is the bigger influence.
We must, as women in business, completely take control of toxic thinking, getting rid of it every time it creeps its ugly head in our lives. This is the only way we’re going to see the value in ourselves that truly exists.
When you feel like you can’t be successful, like you can’t make it, you can’t do it, you don’t have what it takes, shoot down the toxic thinking right away as you begin to recognize it.
Well, my friends, I hope this has been helpful to you and encourages you to dump any negative mindset regarding business. You can do whatever you roll up your sleeves and set out to do. Your life is full of purpose and meaning. You can do this!
As bloggers and online business owners we have to show our trustworthiness very uniquely. It’s not always easy to show “Trust me” online, but there are ways we can do it.
Research shows we only have a few minutes to gain the trust of our customers and clients. Once they land on our website it’s up to us to help them believe in our products and services.
It’s easier said than done, so I thought I’d offer a few ways we can start implementing these strategies for our business right away.
Be super honest
This is my first-and-foremost go-to strategy of all time. Seriously. If all else fails, honesty will not. You may have set yourself up as an expert in your industry, but folks can smell dishonesty from a mile away, which is why it is so important to remain true to yourself.
I know, I know- it’s difficult to see this play out in the business marketing world where it seems everyone’s credentials are over-the-top and egos are over-inflated, but there really are a segment of online marketers who believe in integrity and honesty.
Make sure this is part of yourbusiness model and you’ll see great results.
Your client trust factor will go through the roof because you aren’t afraid to show your failures, your hangups, your hiccups, your uncertainties. Be approachable and relatable all the while offering great value. Which leads me to my next point…
Bring loads of value
Why do your clients love you? If the shoe were on the other foot and you were the client, why would you be interested in your own services? Do you see how you are bringing value to your clients?
You can bring value in many different ways:
Bringing value to your client will make a tremendous difference in your trust factor. They trust you because they love what you offer to them, and they trust your expertise. So don’t be afraid to bring it on!
Clients also love to know that you are stable. You’ll be there even if they don’t hear from you in a few weeks. You are around.
You haven’t closed shop. You will contact them again and offer them more value.
Stability means everything to your business and momentum will keep things alive and well for you.
When your clients know they can count on you to follow through on your offers or that you’ll do exactly what you said you would, they trust you even more.
What’s great is you are likely to receive referrals as a result! What a great way to expand your business- by word of mouth. Stability will take you a long way.
Now, I’ll admit (in an effort to be more relatable and transparent) I haven’t always been as stable with this blog as I would have liked.
Why? Because I’m a busy mama!
I got busy and I just haven’t truly worked my blog like a business this past year. Sure, I was working on business activities and making money, but I could have done so much more with my blog…
So… I’m working to change that this year, and I am excited for what’s ahead!
Okay, I’m not much of a gardener but I know a few things. I’ve learned that owning and operating a business is very much like gardening. Why? Because there are moments I put in a lot of work only to have to step back and allow it to grow. Other times I have to be more hands-on, give my garden a few sprinkles of water and be more attentive to its needs.
In order to grow a business that thrives I like to think of nourishing a business the way I might a garden.
And that’s what this podcast episode is all about. I’m sharing some ways we can do just that! Here is the basic outline of what I discussed. It’s better if you listen in at the play button above, so I won’t get into much detail here:
Start with a seed.
Plant the seed in good soil.
Give it sunshine
Watch it grow!
Very basic, right? I do think that when we follow the pattern that nature shows us how to do, the simple act of taking care of a garden, we can have even a much better and more holistic business. Because then it’s not about pushing for quick, overnight growth (though that can happen too and it’s always great when it does!) but putting in the time to cultivate it and watching it naturally produce for you, for years to come.
Listen in to hear my thoughts this week. I’d love to hear yours, too…just comment below and I’ll be sure to respond.
I’m a homeschool mompreneur, and I know that there are a few of you others out there as well who are trying, like me, to balance both of these unique lifestyles. And if homeschooling isn’t your thing but you’re raising kids while working your business, then this podcast is still for you…so stay tuned!
Okay, mompreneurs out there- I know by the title of this post you’re thinking, “But is balance really possible?” Like you, I am skeptical of the promise of complete balance and freedom and bliss in my daily schedule. It just won’t happen.
I firmly believe, however, that balance doesn’t just happen but it is achieved through hard work and perseverance (and even then it’s not a complete “balance”). Balance happens for every mompreneur in the way that suits her best for each particular season of her life. And it’s different all the time.
At this season of my life I am homeschooling my kids…and…I’m working flexibly around our daily school schedules. On this podcast I will be sharing what’s been working for me (or not) and how I’ve managed over the years to merge two very alternative lifestyles and adapt them to meet my unique family needs.
I’ve also got a video to share from my homeschool YouTube channel over at MomZest. Most of what you’ll hear in this podcast will reiterate what I’ve mentioned in the video, but I share a few extra tips in the podcast that you might find helpful if you are balancing these two unique lifestyles.
Watch the video
You might be thinking: “But I don’t homeschool” or “I don’t have kids at home, but I’m a mompreneur who still needs help with life balance. Will this podcast be helpful for me?” Although I’m gearing up this particular episode with tips I’ve learned along the way as a homeschooling mom in particular, I do believe that no matter your kids’ education status is, you can still very much benefit from this episode…so don’t tune out.
How I balance being a homeschool mompreneur
Prepare for the ride.
I’ll be honest with you, if you are planning to become a homeschool mompreneur, getting ready for the ride ahead of you will be the biggest challenge. Mindset is always the #1 deterrent from success. Being mentally prepared for the task ahead and not cheating yourself out of the truth will take you a long way.
You will need to own up to the fact that the ride ahead of you will have some bumps and challenges. It won’t be smooth sailing and there will be days that you may feel like giving up. But in order to succeed, you’ll need to keep going. Prepare for the ride ahead of you by getting some support systems in place. Find groups of like-minded moms who are following the same path as you, who have also decided to become a homeschool mompreneur. Join entrepreneur meetups and groups in your area. Join groups online. But whatever you do, get with somebody else who is walking the same path as you because you’ll need that support for your journey. Here are a few more tips to help you find homeschool mompreneur life balance…
One of the biggest lessons I learned in the beginning is that if an event, a task, a new routine or schedule isn’t efficient for the family, we won’t choose it. If it takes too much time or energy or doesn’t give our family the room to practice the simplicity when we need it, we won’t do it.
For many of you listening, that may mean finding schools for your kids closer to your home so you reduce travel time. It likely means arranging your work hours to fit around your kids’ school schedules so that you’re available for drop off and pick up. For a homeschool mom like myself that could mean choosing curriculum that doesn’t require a ton of parent teacher prep, choosing school hours that fit around my work routine, and changing my wake/sleep cycle to allow for more time in the mornings and evenings to accomplish my business work so that I still have the space to homeschool.
Efficiency means streamlining my family lifestyle in a way that allows for increased productivitywith the least amount of stress for everyone in involved. That’s a huge undertaking and it’s not a perfect process, but I find that when I set my mind to it, I can place my plans into motion and watch the efficiency begin happening.
Keep a loose, yet solid routine.
Playing off the idea of efficiency, is the concept of scheduling.
Time management is a major topic in the business industry because everyone in business has to learn how to make good use of their time. What I’ve learned as a homeschool mom is that I have to keep our family schedule loose enough to allow for flexible situations that may come up: like education field trips, weekly coops and group classes. But I also have to make sure our routine is solid enough so that, although our days don’t look alike from one day to the next, we at least have some idea of what a daily school routine looks like. I also have an idea of what my routine looks like for keeping up my home (meal prep and cooking, cleaning days, laundry) and what routines I have in place for work.
As a homeschool mompreneur, keeping organized is crucial. I keep physical notebooks as well as Google docs and a Google calendar. At the beginning of each week I like to set expectations for the week, what I wish to accomplish.
If you stay organized best with physical notebooks, digital notebooks, post it notes, checklists, or one of those fancy planners, do whatever works best for you. The main things to organize are your physical space and your time. If I can ensure that I spend quality time with each child throughout the week, and time with my husband as well, I’m a happy camper.
I love family game nights, and dinner at the table together. That doesn’t happen all the time but when it does at any point during the week, it makes me pretty happy. Our time together as a family is even more important to me than the time I spend on business. However, if I want to succeed in business I have to make sure that I spend adequate amounts of time moving forward on my plans and not getting stuck in a rut, which can happen so often with distractions.
For this reason, I hole myself up in an office or coffee shop during my business hours with a no-disturb sign if I’m at home so that I actually can get some work done. It’s just one of those things I have to do personally to make sure my family is on the same page with me and everyone understands I am working and that just because I’m in the room next door doesn’t mean I’m available to make a sandwich. 😉
Also, my kids are, thankfully, of the age now where they are making their own snacks and pretty much keeping the house running for me while I’m working. They know that when I’m done working, we can spend time together and they’ll get 100% of me at that time. Keeping organized with my time is the only way for me to maintain family balance and still keep my business rolling!
I hope that these tips have been helpful to you if you are in the same boat as I am. Being a homeschool mompreneur isn’t easy but it is definitely doable. Let me know if I can help you in any way such as with branding your business or designing your new logo and website.
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Hi, I’m Demetria– podcaster, blogger, mompreneur of two daughters and Navy wife. I’m passionate about blogging and helping women start an online business through blogging. To learn how to start a blog you can read my book, take my course, or get coaching. I’m here to help you!
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