Work-at-home mommy guilt. It’s real. If you’ve ever decided to launch out on your own in business, you understand just how difficult it can be to be build an authentic and thriving brand. It takes a lot of work, some know-how, an I-can-do-it mentality, and some hustle. And sometimes that hustle keeps mompreneurs from feeling as though we are absolutely present.
Whatever your struggles are- whether you feel guilty for “not being there” mentally and emotionally, or if you struggle with time management and attempting to get it all done, rest assure that I understand. Many of us have been there.
If you’re a homeschooling mom, I have some specific tips for you on building a business while homeschooling– since that is where I am in life right now. Otherwise, keep reading…
One of my biggest goals in creating a thriving business is to ensure that I spend quality time with my kids. After all, that’s why I chose to build an online business to begin with.
So here’s a video I filmed on my Facebook page (I invite you to “like” my page and join me over there, by the way). On this video I share some motivating tips- three to be exact- on how to avoid this work-at-home mommy guilt. There’s no need for guilt to overtake you. You’re a hard-working mama who is giving your business all you’ve got- AND you’re giving your family all you’ve got.
You really can do both.
3 Ways to Battle the Infamous Work-At-Home Mommy Guilt
Designate specific office hours.
It goes without saying that if you set aside the time to get things accomplished- you shall! You will have whatever you set out for. Your intentions for the day will dictate your level of productivity.
So, one thing I’ve been doing is either a.) getting up earlier than my kids, or b.) going to be later than my kids. Either of these two things will get me moving towards my goals because I’m 100% positive I’ll achieve a good chunk of my goals while my kids are asleep. Not that they’re super needy or anything (I have a teen and a pre-teen…so…no.) But because we’re homeschooling this school year we have additional commitments to get through school work together in the mornings. So, getting up earlier works for me.
Do what works for you, but know that if you are consistent with special hours and set times that you choose to work you’ll get more accomplished. Try to have a similar sleep/wake cycle every day and try an early morning or late nighter if you have kids at home. If your kids are in school, use that time to work. This way, you don’t have to allow your work to bleed over into family time when the kids are home from school. Which leads me to my next point…
Designate mommy/kid time.
If you just set aside a few minutes a day (or hours) to hang out with your kids you’ll make deeper connections with them. I’ve found that even just a few minutes of a card game or board game gives my kids the quality time they need with me, plus time to chat and catch up on anything they want to talk about.
The thing here is to not overcommit. (Don’t say you’ll read five chapters of their favorite book AND bake cookies with them if you know you don’t have the time.) That is probably the quickest way to heighten your feelings of guilt.
Keep things simple. Kids can learn to appreciate the small things you do for them. You don’t have to take them to a theme park or Chuck E Cheese to make up for all your hard work during the week. They’ll be okay just talking with you and knowing you love them and want to spend time with them. (Or at least we hope so.)
Be Okay With Crazy.
Not everything is going to pan out the way we want it to life, but that’s okay right? You likely won’t get all your t’s crossed and i’s dotted, but…that’s the way of life. Sometimes things aren’t going to go as planned. Whether it’s a family crisis, or really cool decision you make to go FREE yourself for a week at the beach, you can afford to let loose and live a little.
Be okay with crazy sometimes and just enjoy life. It’s okay, really!
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